She will explain the concept that I’m trying to convey much better.
In her book, Sarah explains how to get rid of unwanted obligations and guilt, and give your “f..ks” to people and things that bring you joy instead.
We only have a certain amount of time in a day; make sure to spend it the way YOU truly want.
I’m not suggesting to stop seeing your friends and family, but if you feel like you’re saying “yes” to everything just because you’re afraid of their reaction and you actually want to do something else, learn to say no!
People who really love you will actually understand, and they will be happy to spend more quality time with you no matter the frequency!
In the past few years, I have drastically reduced the amount of time I used to spend in coffee shops, bars or restaurants with friends. I prefer to attend self-development networking events or do a nice yoga or meditation class.
This is what lights me up and makes me feel truly fulfilled.
I prefer to spend a weekend walking in nature or reading a nice book in the sunshine, rather than running to the next dinner.
I’ve applied this rule to social media as well: social media is a wonderful tool if you use it to fill your feed with interesting people, not people who seem to have a perfect life all the time, or people who bring others down.
Ask yourself: is this profile on Instagram (or any other social media) bringing me a good emotion or a negative feeling?
If it’s negative, unfollow.
In the same way that I’ve done with my personal time, I’ve cleared out a lot of things that were not bringing me any value at work.
Rather than accepting every single project, can you actually learn to say no to some things that you don’t have time to do?
Trust me, people will respect you more when you learn to set boundaries and you deliver on the things that actually matter most.
If I had to fly to every single event where I can give a talk, I would never sleep in a place for more than 2 nights in a row.
Would this bring me any joy? Absolutely not.
Make sure to remember this next time you catch yourself doing something you’re truly not enjoying.
And breathe… there will always be days when you’ll feel overwhelmed, but if you learn to prioritise the things that bring you happiness life will always be easier.